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Whose dream is it anyway?

on February 3, 2012

Here’s another one that I come across pretty consistently when I’m meeting with people who are in a job search right now.  I really always wanted to do “X” but my mother/father insisted that I go to college.  Or my parents weren’t supportive of my passion to be a hairstylist, plumber, doctor, attorney, you name it.  Or my dad was an attorney so it was always pretty much understood that I’d go to law school.  My mom was a nurse and that’s the path that I thought I was supposed to follow too.  I come from a long line of (fill in the blank) ______________.  Even, well, all my friends were going to XYZ University so I just applied there too and thought I’d figure the rest out along the way.  And now here I am wondering how I got here exactly and where I want to go/what I want to do next.

I know a lot of this is potentially or maybe really deeply psychological.  I am by no means schooled in the subject.  Just a curious person wondering how we get ourselves into “these things.”  That leads me to ask a lot of questions about it.  There’s a lot of fear, uncertainty and anxiety right now because we have a lot of time to think, consider, assess.  Maybe it’s better to just follow the path that was expected, understood; go with the flow.  Right now in most cases there is really no “flow”.  We are at a dead stop.  That means we have more time than ever to contemplate, consider our path, beat ourselves up for all the things we could have, should have done etc.

What if we choose to view it as an opportunity?  To take a class (academic or technical); go for the whole degree/certification?  Do some serious self-assessments and ask some introspective questions?  Consider all the possibilities of where our skills, gifts, experience, contacts could take us?  Map it out?  Chart the course?  Be unapologetically who we are?  Who God designed us to be?  Define success for ourselves instead of allowing someone else to do it?

Does it require strength and courage?  Absolutely.  Will it be easy?  Unlikely.  Will everyone else be doing it?  Doubtful.  Is it going to be uncomfortable?  Most assuredly.  Then why would anyone want to put themselves through it?

Just ask someone who has a genuine passion for what they do all day?  They’ll say it’s worth it.

If you can relate to the opening paragraph, have had a real transition during this economic downturn or are someone who truly loves what they do please comment.  I want to hear from you.


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